• SonyaStewart

A while back I met someone who displayed very questionable behaviours, & I didn’t understand what it was about, I found information on the internet & it suddenly clicked that what I was seeing was an individual with narcissistic traits. 

Below is a description of what that means:

Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.

Traits to look out for is as below:


  • Lack of empathy.

  • Selfishness

  • Projection of issues onto others.

  • Non accountability for poor actions.

  • Discard without any explanation. 

  • Non apology for poor behaviour. 

  • Never questioning themselves, when there are clear issues. Gaslighting. (Description: Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person covertly sows seeds of doubt onto another person, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes, including low self-esteem).

  • Non communication is prevalent.

  • When they do communicate, it's all about them.

  • Mind games. 

  • Toxic behaviour.

  • Triangalation.

  • Lovebomb / discard - like you don’t exist, which comes from their lack of empathy. 

  • Winning at all costs, even to the detriment of your relationship (whatever form it is, which shows up as insincerity.

  • Inability to be truthful.

  • Tries to create unnecessary conflicts (attention seeking).  These traits can also be worsened if they take a lot of alcohol etc. (Addictive traits as well).   You can know someone for a long time but the mask eventually slips.  They can mirror you & you never question it, tell you what you would like to hear, but then their actions over time, show opposite eg future faking.  Important thing to realise if you are dealing with someone with these traits, is to protect your energy & distance yourself.  NPD’s will never question their own behaviour, just project & blame others.   They basically ‘fuel’ on your energy, as they have not learned to ‘fuel’ themselves, which makes you a ‘supply’ to them.  I have read many stories on people who have undergone very difficult times with someone with NPD.  It is also important to understand that usually NPD is the result of childhood trauma, & is a ‘coping mechanism’.  The issue is, so set in, unless they receive help or request help, they never get to the root of the issue internally.

It’s an important topic so that people have a good understanding, & don’t have to go through such a long process with someone who is unable to show any kind of empathy.

I hope you find this topic of interest & that it may help someone who is going through a similar situation or confusion.   Of course you are welcome to comment. 


    You Tube link for awareness:  https://youtu.be/rLCPDYt1wYk 

    2nd You Tube link by Sam Vaknin: https://youtu.be/euGhNMifaw8
 



  • SonyaStewart

I miss the early days of Facebook, when it didn't matter if you engaged on feeds, you didn't have to pay for more exposure &  didn't have to deal with adverts etc.  Nowadays it's a very different ball game, there seems to be far more control over everything whether it's on Facebook, YouTube etc. for business purposes.  Based on your searches, adverts will appear based on what you have searched for.   How I long for the days when there was freedom of speech on the internet.  As time goes on, it can be more 'controlled'. There was an interesting video I watched on YouTube  -  https://youtu.be/bkfoL9afMcM  - David Icke had been interviewed two years back, speaking about freedom of speech, and now he is no longer on YouTube due to ‘repeated violation of policies’.  So in these uncertain times with COVID  19, it would be nice to be able to speak your thoughts and not feel that it is monitored in any way i.e. freedom to express opinions. I understand there has to be a level of monitoring etc. With the internet there is so much information you can find, anything you want to find out about, but I truly feel that there should be a larger element of freedom of speech, as long as you act responsibly, without feeling confined to monitoring, rules and regulations. With the current situation of COVID 19, there is need for much more opinions and freedom of expression to allow for more open-minded communication, that allows 'food for thought'. I have seen through the years from my dealings with social media, many changes, many more restrictions.  Through arts and creative freedom, there should be allowance to express thoughts without concern that articles etc, will be removed due to so-called 'violation policy', what is known as ‘conspiracy theorists’ are basically different viewpoints/understandings/perceptions- there should be allowance for freedom of expression and to let people make up their own minds based on the information given. It would be interesting to start communication on what others feel on the subject. Do you feel there is so much more restriction & lack of freedom speech?

Attachments area Preview YouTube video David Icke on Free Speech & Who controls the World

What keeps us thinking we are 'half', is emotional blocks, co-dependency, beliefs & past programming. All have to be cleared to feel that 'wholeness'. We can have 'connections' pass the time when we are in 'half thinking mode' - karmic connections to learn lessons from, but for higher, true connections, you can still be whole & connected without the 'need' aspect. See link below that I thought was interesting. Further thoughts on this are welcome within the comments section:-


Soul Mates and Twin Souls: The Real Story by Michael Mirdad - Link on YouTube :- https://youtu.be/Cw6i5sAskDs




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